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I heard somewhere that 92% of New Year’s resolutions are broken before January 31st. I don’t know how accurate that statement is (it came from LL Cool J on NCIS: Los Angeles), but it sounds like it’s probably true, as it’s the number I’d expect for broken New Year’s resolutions. I’ve managed to keep mine for the past couple of years, mostly by saying I won’t make any resolutions that I know I can’t keep. This year was different though, as I wanted to lose some unnecessary body fat, eat healthier, and consume less sweets, among other things.

So far, I’ve made some progress. I’m visiting the gym more often, eating smaller portions, and I can’t remember when I had any cake or soft-serve yogurt. I know if my weight is changing dramatically, but I hope it has. My “among other things” have gotten slightly better too…though like the weight, it’s a work in progress. And no, I’m not telling you what the “among other things” are, because they’re more personal problems I have than weight. Have fun guessing what they are, though.

I’m not saying that people who are unable to keep their resolutions have something to be ashamed of. Change certainly doesn’t happen in a month (I’m directing that one to FOX News). And you don’t need the New Year to make a change. You can make a change any time. All you need is resolve and a support network. However, if you did make a sresolution on December 31st, 2012 or January 1, 2013 and you’ve managed to keep it, then good for you! Keep up the good work, friend.

What’s your resolution? And how’s it going for you?

I’ve taken two writing workshops so far at school, with the goal of becoming a better writer. Have I become a better writer? I like to think so; none of the stuff I’ve produced since my first meeting in the workshop last semester has gotten a “yay” or “nay” as far as being published, but I think that same stuff is a little bit better.

However I may also be a little more literary in my writing voice. This is because the workshops I take emphasize literary fiction, mostly because of the character development aspect of it, but also because some critics believe that genre fiction is predictable (I’ll admit that’s sometimes true, but quality genre fiction can do the same old shtick several times and each time make it seem original and utterly compelling, so there’s no reason to put it down). Because of this emphasis on literary fiction, I’ve had to write my stories with more of a literary verve than before, and I’ve definitely had to critique and merit the stories based on how good they are, both as literary fiction and as fiction in general.

Because of all that, my style might sound a little more literary than before. I mean, today at the library, taking a break from homework and school pressure, I started writing a story about a character contemplating suicide. Before, that would’ve had a more thriller bent. But now, I’m wondering how to draw out his character, how to make it seem natural and realistic, how to get people invested in the character. And I find myself drawing on everything I’ve written and read for these workshop classes I’ve been taking, and I find myself thinking, “I’m becoming something I swore I wouldn’t become.”

What I swroe I wouldn’t become was an author of literary fiction, which I feel for the most part is boring and slow and too realistic for my dark tastes. And even though I’ve resisted, some of the elements of literary writing have rubbed off on me. Am I sad or angry? I’m not sure. Maybe a little worried. I mean, I like genre fiction. If I write in a more literary style, will people stop liking my work as genre fiction? Or is the fact that I’m a bit better at writing realistic stories with character development only going to aid me in the future?

I have no clue. And truthfully, I won’t get a clue for a while, at least not until I’ve published a little more work and seen how people react to it.

What’s your opinion? Do you think having some literary aspects to your creative process and to your writing is a good thing, or a bad thing?

In my creative writing class yesterday we critiqued a story by one of our classmates, the story starring a rather interesting character. The “interesting” part I’ll decline to elaborate too much on in case this classmate edits this story and it gets published or something, but there is something that I can reveal: the main character is one of those writers who think they are the best thing since Shakespeare, that they are destined for greatness and anyone who dislikes or doesn’t understand their work is an idiot who couldn’t find brilliance if brilliance kicked them in the ass.

The funny thing is, every writer has been that writer at some point in their careers. I certainly was. It’s usually at that point where we can string together some semblance of a story together with any coherence to it. For those who discovered the joys of writing young, that’s usually in the teen years. I know for a while I thought all I had to do was write and eventually I’d come out with a novel that would be published within a year of finishing it, sell millions around the world, and I’d have an actress girlfriend whom I’d take to the premiere of the movie version with me.

Thank God, most of us outgrow this phase and realize that writing’s hard, good writing is harder, and writing anything that could be published is an amazing feat. For some, it’s only done once or twice in a lifetime. Others get a bit luckier, and they get published several times. A few of those get famous for it, or at the very least can afford to take up writing full-time (I’ll settle for that if I can’t be famous). All of these people who have been published though, even if it’s only once, were published after they got through this “I’m brilliant” phase.

Now, I know there’s no way I can prove that to you. It’s not as if I went to thousands of published writers, both contemporary and in the past, and asked them what they thought of themselves and their writing. But I have a reason why I think this, and here’s my reasoning: the writers who believe this way look at those who can’t understand or don’t like their work as fools, as annoyances. At best, they should be tolerated, but according to these writers, the world’s better off without them.

Sounds a little sociopathic, doesn’t it? But I’m sure it’s a thought that every writer who’s dreamed of greatness has thought, especially during this vanity phase. And it’s a horrible thought if we let it take hold, because it make others look less than human. Subhuman. Inferior. Weak. And a writer writes stories for these people. Not for fame or for money (though I’m sure some writers do write for those very reasons, and if they have any talent, they are wasting it by writing that way), but for the people. We want to share our work with people, to let them enjoy our fantasies. Maybe they’ll like them, maybe they won’t. But we write for them.

And if we denigrate the common man, if we think our readers and the masses are fools compared to our geniuses, if we writers can’t empathize with the persons reading our work, then we can’t expect them to like our work. At some level, they’ll see the emotions we’re trying to portray through our work are false and that we don’t really feel them like others do and they’ll reject the story.

This came up yesterday in class. “If the writer can’t empathize with the readers, he can’t make a good piece of fiction.” That’s something like what my teacher said, and I think it’s true. The writers who let go of this egotistical, self-centered vanity, who don’t let it take hold of them, they’re the ones who end up published, who are in the bookstores or in the magazines or on the e-readers. The ones that don’t…well, if we could tell what they think when they think about themselves and then think about you and me, I think we could really learn to love to hate them.

Of course, you can be a little vain about your first published work or something that’s gotten some success. But for God’s sake, don’t go around thinking you’re all that and a bag of chips until you’ve sold a million copies of your novel, and even then, resist those thoughts! Not even the prettiest gold digger will want to be near you if you make it obvious that you are only interested in yourself and she’s just another planet revolving around your light. There’s a reason pride’s one of the 7 Deadly Sins.

Well, that’s all for now. If I don’t post anything tomorrow, have a good weekend.

The first draft is anyway, and it’s a good long draft, 3,732 words on twelve digital pages. Personally, I had a lot of fun writing this story, about a fictional urban legend at Ohio State University that becomes the center of a huge criminal investigation at Ohio State. The story is narrated in the first person al a The Virgin Suicides, which sounds something like this: “We thought about it a long time, ruminating over the possible meanings. Terry thought it was a psychological issue, while Jeanie Brooks and Jeanie Cunningham were in favor of a spiritual issue.” You see where I’m going with this?

I wrote this story as the second of two short stories I had to write for my creative writing class this semester. Truthfully though I’ve had this story on a sticky note on a tackboard since late August. I just wanted to save it for the right oppurtunity, and if you ask me this was the right oppurtunity. Not only does this story sound somewhat literary, which is the focus of my class, but the fact that we never really know who or what Old Sid is–or why he’s called “Old Sid”–makes the story weird and genre enough that I can write it.

I’ll probably edit it in a few weeks or so, before I’m supposed to turn it in. Hopefully my class will like it and be able to give me some good advice on what to do with it.

Oh, and spekaing of my class, tonight we did an exercise that gave me an idea for a short story. We were supposed to write down three childhood shoes we wore when we were young (or if we couldn’t remember that, something else from childhood) and write about something that happened while we wore those shoes. Since I couldn’t remember any shoes I wore as a child in vivid detail, I went with Halloween costumes…and remembered a low point in my life when I was really depressed. It gave me the idea for a short story, so when I can I’ll work on it and see what comes about.

Have to say, I love my school; it’s doing so much for my writing and the people here don’t even realize it!

As I sit watching Saturday Night Live, I’m also working on my next short story, Old Sid, a short story about a fictional urban legend at Ohio State University. I plan on narrating this story in the fashion of The Virgin Suicides (which means my narrator is a bunch of people talking as one without naming themselves), and I plan for the story to get progressively darker and twisted while keeping the short story within twenty pages, or five-thousand words, as we prefer to think.

I told my Creative Writing teacher about the idea behind me story, and he really enjoyed it. I hope to have it done within a week, even though it’s not due till mid-February. Still, I think I might enjoy this one. At the very least, it’ll be a challenge to write. After all, I’m not used to first person, and this is a very unique form of first person. Well, let’s see what I come up with, okay? I’ll let you know what happens when I finish the short story.

Oh, and guess what? I’ll be doing my famous SNL reviews later tonight. Can’t stop it, there’s Jennifer Laurence, Adam Levine, and Beiber. That last one I probably won’t like, but it’ll be a boost in my stats, no matter what I think of Beib’s performance.

Well, it’s the end of the second week of the new semester, and I’m hopefully settling into a rhythm here with classes everyday and work 3 days a week. In the midst of all this I find time to write short stories (such as those that will be in The Quiet Game: Five Tales To Chill Your Bones. Coming soon in e-book format), including a short story for class. For this short story, I plan on the plot to center around the subject of a fictional urban legend at Ohio State University, my own school. I plan for the story to be written in the style of The Virgin Suicides, where a group of people narrate the story as it happened to them. I’m pretty sure this’ll work for the story.

I also plan on doing homework, because I have to keep my grades up. I also plan to relax a bit, maybe watch a new SNL with Jennifer Laurence hosting. But most of all, I’m looking forward to the inaguration on Monday. In fact, the movie theater near campus will be showing the inaguration live in one of the theaters, so I’ll go there to watch it. I can’t wait!

So have a great 3-day weekend, and I’ll hopefully write a few more posts as the weekend goes on, especially if I have any news to report. See ya!

Well, it’s been a very busy day for me. I had two very long classes that had a lot of reading as homework, I had to work a shift today, and of course I had to eat my breakfast and lunch. But you know what? I managed to find time to work on “Addct”, one of the short stories for The Quiet Game: Five Tales To Chill Your Bones. I took most of the suggestions that my creative writing class gave me, the ones I felt worked best for this story, and incorporated them into the plot.

I gave my main character a little more to him than the static image I had before, adding in a best friend for the character and showing him actually interacting with people other than his own strange hallucinations. And even better, I managed to give the story a new, rather ironic ending. It’s the type of ending horror fans love: the kind that lets you know that the troubles are far from over.

Can you tell I’m happy with the final version? Sure, it’s a bit more literary than I like, but the very fantastical elements of the story makes sure I don’t get bored.

So this is the first of the five short stories for The Quiet Game to be fully finished. Four more to go, and I’ll be able to put the whole collection out. I just have to wait for my friends who are critiquing the other four to get back to me. At this moment, I’m predicting sometime in March or April I’ll have this out.

Keep with me folks, I’ll be published soon!

Well, I got out of the workshop in one piece. And I’ve been given a lot of feedback on how to improve the story. I have a feeling that since the class is more literary focused, the suggestions will ultimately move the story in a more literary direction.

Oh well, I’m getting what I asked for, and there’s enough fantastical elements to this story to make it genre enough for me.

The story is called “Addict”, and it’s about a guy trying to get over his sex addiction. I wrote it in second person (“you walk into a bar, you see the man flirting with your girl, you snap”) because this story was inspired by the experiences of a friend of mine who battled sex addiction. Not everyone was thrilled with the second person thing, but I’m planning on keeping that. I may add a second character with a third-person perspective though.

I may also do some expanding of the plot to include some other elements, such as more weird hallucinations and a reason why the character tries to get off the sex and porn. This is going into my upcoming collection, The Quiet Game: Five Tales To Chill Your Bones, so my classmates won’t know how this story evolved until the collection comes out. I hope they like it, but even if they don’t they’ll get a mention in the acknowledgements section.

I want to get to editing, but first I’ll head home, shower, and then relax a little before I do. Have a good night and wish me luck.

Tonight my creative writing class will be workshopping my short story “Addict”, one of the short stories going into my upcoming collection The Quiet Game: Five Tales To Chill Your Bones. I’m looking forward to it,  because I want these stories to be of the highest quality possible before I publish them. I also like feedback from neutral parties such as my classmates, because they point out stuff we don’t even see. That’s one flaw we writers have: we’re so proud of 0ur work, we don’t always see the flaws in it that others might see and point out.

Well, whatever the outcome is, I’ll let you guys know how it goes. There’s nothing on TV tonight that I’m interested in, so after class I plan to go on an editing binge. If any of the other short stories I’ve sent for critiquing get sent back to me, it’ll be all the better.

So watch out for my post tonight. Until then, have a nice day.

At Ohio State, we have an annual charity drive called Buckeyethon. Those who volunteer collect money for research at Nationwide Children’s Hospital here in Columbus and after collecting $100, get to participate in a 12-hour dance marathon. My family can attest, I love to dance, and I also love supporting charities when I can. Today I collected my last donation for Buckeyethon, and I wanted to thank the people who made that possible in a uniquely Rami Ungar way. So thank you to all my sponsors:

Wendy Ungar and Wendy Mohr, also known as Ima and Wendy. You guys are wonderful teachers and you’ve raised me well. Plenty of blessings upon you and the cats.

Rabbi Michael Ungar, also known as Abba. You took time out of your busy schedule to donate online when I couldn’t figure out how to use the online portal. Plenty of Shabbos naps for you, which I know you’ll appreciate.

And Sudip Roy and Ankit Gupta, the two who taught me how to do Sahaja meditation. Jai Shri Mataji, and I thank you so much for all your support and teaching.

Thanks to these four, I managed to get well over my needed amount. I can’t wait to turn in the donations tomorrow. So thanks everyone, and now I can’t wait for Buckeyethon’s dance marathon! I know you’ll be partying with me in spirit.