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The aromantic flag. Yes, we have a flag.

“We walk among you.”

This is a line from the movie Transamerica, about a transgender woman traveling cross-country with her son who was conceived when she was still living as a man. It’s said at a gender pride party where most of the attendees are trans. The son is talking to a transgender man and says he wouldn’t be able to tell, to which that line is said. I sometimes think of this line and how much it can apply to just about any minority or group that most people don’t see, including a lesser-known segment of the LGBT community.*

This is the aromantic community, or aro for short. A community to which I belong to. And no, we’re not smelly or constantly giving off some fragrance or another. It’s a-romantic. As in, we don’t feel romantic attraction, or we only feel it under very specific circumstances.

This is very different than being asexual, though some aro individuals are asexual as well (as many of you are aware, I’m openly bisexual). We just don’t feel romantic attraction or feel our lives are incomplete unless we have a romantic partner. Some of us don’t even understand romantic attraction, let alone understand when other people feel it. It’s not the same for every person. Like I said, some of us are asexual, while others feel sexual attraction towards one or both genders. And like sexuality and gender, aromantics fall on a spectrum, where some only feel attraction under special circumstances or depending on if a prospective partner is attracted to them as well.

For me, I may feel sexual attraction or think someone is cute, and I may enjoy being close to someone who makes my heart flutter a little. But I don’t think I’ve ever felt real romantic love before, and I started to realize this in high school. Of course, our society is kind of obsessed with love and being in relationships, so I kind of denied it for a while. But at this point in my life, I’m comfortable with it. And from the fact that I wrote this blog post, I felt it was important enough to talk about. Maybe spread a little awareness.

“But wait,” someone may ask, “aren’t you worried about being lonely for the rest of your life?” No, I’m not. I have friendships and people I am close to. I feel platonic love and familial love. I spend time with people and get to retreat afterwards into a comfortable solitude. For me, that’s enough.

“But surely there’s someone out there for you!” Maybe. Almost nothing is impossible. But remember, I’m bisexual. That means that one person just for me, male, female, or nonbinary, is just one in over seven billion. I have a better chance of winning the Powerball, which is about one in two-hundred and ninety-two million. But I’m not going to go out of my way on the off-chance I beat the odds and win the Powerball, let alone find some hypothetical soulmate.

Besides, I’m happy. I have a good job and a good home, I write stories that I am passionate about and that people love, and I have hobbies that I can share and gush about with people. Someday I may be able to write full-time, which I would love. I get to travel on occasion, and I’ve made so many good memories. What more could I want?

“But don’t you write romantic storylines in your stories?” Yes, I do. But not every aromantic individual is unable to understand romantic attraction. I don’t feel it or experience it, but I understand it. It’s not the first or last thing I’ve ever written about that I have no firsthand experience with (for example, I know no plant/human hybrids). I just tend to approach romantic storylines with a bit more realism. I have an outsider’s perspective, so I see signs of people getting too wrapped up in ideas of romance or true love, or how much a relationship of this sort requires a ton of work, or a hundred other things. And so far, no one’s complained how my relationships seem hokey or silly. On the contrary, all I’ve heard is how well done my fictional relationships are portrayed.

And in the future, I hope I can put more aromantic characters into my work (as well as more Jewish characters). I’m all for representation in my fiction, after all.

Anyway, was there a particular reason I decided to release a post about this on the day that people feel pressured to show how much they love their partner, be romantic, on a date, or otherwise showing they’re not lonely or single? The timing just seemed right, if I’m being honest. That, and for the sake of education. Both for the more romantically able, and for those who may be like me and may not realize they’re not alone or there’s nothing wrong with them.

On the contrary, you’re just the way you’re intended to be. Whether you feel romantic attraction or not. Remember, we walk among the crowds. And despite all appearances, we are never truly alone.

Happy Valentine’s Day, everybody. If you are with someone today, I hope you’re having a good time. And in the meantime, if you’re curious about aromanticism and want to learn more, I’ll leave some resource links down below. Until next time, good night and pleasant nightmares.

*And yes, the aro community is part of the LGBT community. In fact, the “A” in LGBTQIA+ can sometimes mean aromantic.


Aromantic-spectrum Union for Recognition, Education and Advocacy

Very Well Mind — What Does it Mean to be Aromantic?

Another interview, this time with my friend and colleague Pat Bertram. Check out our discussion about Video Rage, and find out which famous actors I would love to play my characters in a movie too!

Pat Bertram Introduces . . .

Video RageCongratulations on the publication of your latest book, Rami. What is Video Rage about?

Video Rage is the sequel to my first novel, Reborn City, and the second book in the Reborn City series, a science fiction trilogy I’ve been writing since high school. The series follows the Hydras, a street gang in the futuristic city-state of Reborn City, a Vegas-like metropolis. The Hydra leaders have strange powers, and the origins of these powers are tied in with the mysterious Parthenon Company that rules Reborn City.

In Video Rage, the Hydras are currently on the run from Parthenon and its cruel CEO, Jason Price. They’ve been branded terrorists and are being hunted across the North American continent. They also have to deal with internal struggles and strife, which leads to some really interesting drama among the characters. It’s a very dark time for the Hydras, and they’ll have to…

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Big news! “When the Lights Go Out”, the Halloween anthology I am lucky to be part of is now going to be in print. Apparently so many people were requesting it in print, Joleene Naylor our editor decided to make it available in print from Amazon. See folks? You can make a difference if you try.
So if you want a really spooky story or twenty-five this Halloween, or if you’re looking for a new scary author, this may be the anthology for you.
And if you decide to check it out, make sure to write a review. The best way to support an author, besides buying their books, is by writing reviews of their works.
Thanks, and have a spooky Halloween tomorrow!

Amaranthine by Joleene Naylor

WHEN THE LIGHTS GO OUTThanks to several requests, the Ink Slingers’ Anthology When the Lights Go Out is now available in paperback! You can get all the spooky/Halloween goodness for your bookshelf!

Paperback!!

When the Lights go Out is a collection of twenty-five short stories just in time for Halloween. Enjoy thrills, chills, and mysteries. Meet ghosts, demons, vampires, and monsters everywhere from dark city streets to the English countryside. Scares lurk in the most unexpected places and, when the lights go out, no where is safe and no one will be spared.

Of course, you can still get it FREE from ebook retailers:

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And read great stories like:

  • Midnight Summons by Tricia Drammeh 

Karen has been a medium for a long time and she’s seen it all. Until now. A late night phone call summons her to…

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I recently wrote an article for a blog devoted to helping self-published authors. They were asking if there were any authors who wouldn’t mind writing about outlining novels, and I volunteered. You can read the full article by following the link. I’m very happy and grateful to Self-Published Authors Helping Other Authors for accepting my essay and I hope we can do more business in the future.
Oh, and if you happen to be a self-published author, I strongly recommend subscribing to their blog posts. You never know what helpful hints you might pick up here.

The Black Dragon Award

Posted: April 17, 2013 in Uncategorized

The first person to write up their own post for the Black Dragon Award! Please read my good friend Angela’s post on her Portia Adams casebooks and her own experiences writing. You might just want to follow her.

Angela Misri's author page

My lovely friend Rami over at Rami Ungar the Writer has nominated me for the first ever Black Dragon award!

These are the rules as listed on his post:

1. You must have written something scary or featuring something scary in the past year. (This can range from being a simple murder mystery to a full-on zombie novel with a wizard and serial killers mixed in for variety). Note that whatever work you’ve created will be the subject of several of the questions below.

2. You must thank the person who nominated you and then link back to their  blog.

3. You must answer the 10 questions below on your own blog post.

4. Finally, you must nominate at least 5 other authors for the award and then notify them of it

FIRST and most important, here are my five nominees for The Black Dragon Award:

Scary Structures
Waiting…

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My friend Matt, for reasons listed in the article, wrote an article showing some of the contributions Israel has made in the fields of science, medicine, and technology, in honor of Israeli Independence Day. I strongly encourage you to read this article and see how Israel is helping to change the world in positive ways. You may learn something interesting…like perhaps the cell phone came from Israel, or that Israel made those camera-pills everyone’s heard about.

Stories by Williams

jerusalem_israelWelcome everyone to my first special-request piece! As some of you who read this blog regularly may know, I was recently done a solid by a friend who brought the existence of my latest book (Whiskey Delta) to the attention of Max Brooks, Mr. World War Z man himself! Because of this, I told him he was entitled to favor, redeemable whenever he saw fit. Especially if the favor he did me allowed me to make it big!

Emblem_of_Israel.svgMuch to my surprise, he called it in early. Yes, instead of waiting for me to become a success and demanding 50 grand and pony, he asked that I do a tribute piece in honor of Israeli Independence Day, one that acknowledges the collective scientific, medical and technological achievements of this nation.

So hang tight. Not the easiest thing in the world to sum up an entire nation’s contributions in several fields…

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Posted: March 11, 2013 in Uncategorized

A friend of mine started a petition to make the use of surveillances drones by police illegal on American soil. Since I’m concerned about the privacy rights that could potentially be violated and the potential to cause a panic with these drones, I’m signing the petition. Won’t you?

Stories by Williams

X-47BCall me concerned, but some recent news items have made more than a few people frightened that unmanned drones could be peaking in their windows and watching them as they go to work very soon. The first came back in September when US Congress passed the Modernization and Reform Act of 2012 which, among other things, required the Federal Aviation Administration (FAA) to accelerate drone flights in U.S. airspace.

A number of US law enforcement agencies have also adopted the use of drones for the sake of police work. Amongst them are the Miami-Dade Police Department, the Texas Department of Public Safety, and the Alameda Sheriff’s Department is likely to follow. The Seattle Police Department also maintained a small fleet as well, but grounded them due to public outcry and concerns over privacy.

As it stands, the Obama Administration has already adopted legislation that prevents drones from being armed and…

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Posted: March 6, 2013 in Uncategorized

When I heard about this, I got incensed. Let’s show our outrage, everybody! This is exploitation of writers and their creative works, and it cannot go unheard or unpunished! Reblog if you’re as upset about this as I am.

Posted: January 28, 2013 in Uncategorized

A friend of mine whom I share many passions with has uploaded the latest trailer for the upcoming film, “A Good Day to Die Hard”. Can I just say, I cannot wait? Bruce Willis is awesome, and I am looking forward to some huge explosions this Valentine’s Day!

Stories by Williams

die-hard-5-poster-570x844I know, I complain pretty bitterly about all the unnecessary sequels and remakes that are coming out these days. But a Die Hard sequel is one thing you will never hear me complain about. I mean, c’mon, it’s Die Hard! Pure, smashy, action, death-defying goodness! And when a new trailer for the upcoming A Good Day to Die Hard comes along, especially one that boasts this kind of action-pornographic goodness, I’m sure to post it!

Note that this trailer expands on the last one by sticking to the main points of interest, but adding some key details. Basically, we’re given a bit more info on who the bad guys are and what their agenda is before getting into a big father and son shoot em up! And I couldn’t approve of the setting more. There’s just something about a post-Cold War Moscow. So beautiful, rich in culture and history, but…

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Posted: January 15, 2013 in Uncategorized

A friend of mine interviewed me for my upcoming collection, “The Quiet Game: Five Tales To Chill Your Bones”. I hope you check out the interview, and also check out my friend, Pat Bertram, who is a published novelist herself.

Pat Bertram Introduces . . .

cimg1481Hi, Rami. Good to talk to you! What is your book called?

It’s “The Quiet Game: Five Tales To Chill Your Bones”, and it’ll be available later this year as an e-book.

Have you always wanted to be a writer?

At least since I first read “Harry Potter”, though I didn’t realize it till I was around ten or so. At that age you want to be a scientist, a superhero, a firefighter, President. But at ten I realized I wanted to write, and I’ve been writing since.

What writer influenced you the most?

I’d have to say Anne Rice, Stephen King, and James Patterson. I discovered the first two when I was in junior high and high school, and they blew my mind. I knew after reading them, horror was what I wanted to focus on. I discovered James Patterson shortly before graduating high school, and I think he…

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